Birth Story

On Friday morning I woke up at 3:20am to go to the bathroom. When I stood up I needed to go again so I sat back down and started to have déjà vu regarding DD’s birth with my water breaking in Quizno’s. I stood up and started to walk out of the bathroom and realized I was leaking a little more so I got a pad out and put that on. Then I realized I should get some towels to lay on the bed in case my water really broke so we wouldn’t have a wet bed. I laid the towels out and laid down. I was trying to decided if I should wake DH up or not. My water hadn’t really broken like it had with DD yet so I didn’t want to wake him unless I really needed too. I wasn’t having any contractions either so I decided to wait. Then there was another gush. I thought I should at least wake him since I was starting to feel just a little nervous that we should call to find out if we needed to come it.

I patted DH’s head and he asked, “what?” I told him I thought my water was breaking and he then was wide awake. I told him I didn’t know if we should call or not but he said we were suppose to call right away if my water broke. He went downstairs to get a phone to call them. After telling the nurse what was going on she told me they would like be to come it. I could take a shower and get something light to eat and then head in. I asked her if I really needed to come in right away or if I could wait. She said they would like me in within the next hour to hour and a half, though if I still hadn’t felt the baby move within the next half hour then I would need to hurry in.

I took a shower and gathered up some last things for my hospital bag. DH got dressed and we called his parents once I was out of the shower to come stay with the older kids. I got a nectarine to eat while DH ate two slices of leftover pizza. I had DH take a last PG pic since we were suppose to take my 38-week pic the night before but I figured we would just take it the next day. I posted on facebook and my board that we were heading to the hospital so all would know what was happening since the hospital doesn’t have internet connection. I still hadn’t felt the baby move and DH was anxious for us to leave.

We arrived at the hospital at around 4:30am. They took us to Triage and started checking us in. The midwife was in the middle of a delivery so she wasn’t able to come and check me until she was finished there. We ended up waiting 3 hours in triage before I got checked. The nurse checking us in to Triage was interesting. She talked way too much…going as far to tell us a story after finding out I was StrepB negative about another nurse that worked there. She said that the nurse was positive meaning she needed to have an antibiotic while delivering the baby. I guess the nurse delivered so fast they weren’t able to give her the antibiotic and she said the baby ended up dying the next day. Just what we wanted to hear about a baby dying as we are about to have a baby. Don’t worry…we did tell the staff when they came around to see how thing had been going for us.

Another nurse came in to do a test to see if my water really had broken. The test was negative and that made me start to wonder if I was really feeling my water break. I was pretty sure. She told me it’s not a 100% test and the midwife would do a different test that would say for sure. DH laid down on the floor to sleep and I slept a little and read my book waiting for the midwife. She finally came in and said she was going to do the test to see if my water broke which she said would be a lot like getting a pap smear. Lovely…just what one wants while having contractions and being in early stages of labor. Thankfully the contractions weren’t painful yet. Thankfully the midwife decided to do one last thing to see if my water broke and asked me to cough which then some water poured out and she declared it was certainly ruptured. She checked me (shortly before 8am) and found me to be at 4cm, 80% effaced, and neg2 station. I was really excited to find I was so far along already and no back labor!!!

We were taken by our nurse, Tina, to our room. She checked the position of the baby and she was still head down…always nice to hear after having DD breech. We called our parents and responded to all the texts we had received earlier since the Triage Room didn’t have cell service. We told them where I was at and we told my parents to come whenever they wanted to. DH’s Dad would come soon with a little list of things we realized we forgot. His mom was going to try to come a little later to be there for the birth. After a couple hours of reading, going through contractions, and checking the screen out for the intensity (seeing if it matched how I was feeling with them) we got up and walked the halls. We took a couple of rounds and then went back to the room to sit on the ball that Tina brought back for me. The midwife was there and showed me how I could use the bed to help me balance on the ball. I sat on it until about halfway through a contraction it made it so much worse! I had to stand up and decided that was it for the ball. I laid on the bed on my side which messed up the monitors on the baby and myself. I only stayed there for a little while but was able to rest some. We then took a walk outside to the little plaza outside of the labor delivery doors. It was so nice to get outside. It was a beautiful warm day. We headed back inside. I told DH to call my mom and ask her to come since the contractions I was having were progressing so much faster than they were with LM and I wanted to make sure she was there to help coach me like she did before.

Shortly after my mom arrived my midwife came in and checked me (11am). She said I was at a 4. I was VERY disappointed that all these contractions I had been through were doing NOTHING! She could tell I was frustrated and asked what my other stats were and she said they were the same still. She did say that everyone is a little different with sizing so now she new where I was at and could know more next time she checked me. She said I may have been a 3 earlier for her. That was a little positive but I was still sad. My mom could tell too. She told my dad we were in for long haul.

DH was thinking of going to go and get some lunch but Tina had said she was filling the tub for me. I loved the tub with LM! I got in it 3-4 times with him. I was hoping the tub with help the contractions. I sat up to go to the tub and was on the edge of the bed and the contraction I had was the worst yet. Tina sat by my on the bed and squeezed my hips. It helped reduce the contraction in half! It was wonderful. She said it was counter pressure and told DH he could do that for me. As we were walking down the hall I had another one. DH was standing back so Tina stepped in again and squeezed my hips. It helped again. Tina told DH that that was the time he could help. Lol (she was always joking around with him…which was fun for me). Then I got in the tub. Tina asked DH if he had swim shorts so he could get in with me and help me out. He didn’t so she got him a pair of scrub pants to put on. It was such a relief to have him help me through the contractions though some of them I need him to squeeze harder and I knew that was rough for him. It was a major workout for him.

I thought I had only 5 contractions in there but DH said there were 6-7 contractions and then I said I needed to push. He said, “WHAT!” and jumped out of the tub to push the nurse button that was on the bed. He pushed it a good 8-10 times. Finally (after what seemed like forever and me thinking I was going to deliver this kid on my own) they answered. I told them we needed help. Tina was in our room just down the hall and came in. I told her I need to push so she had me sit back and checked me. She said I was ready to go. She asked if I wanted to go back to my room or stay there. I said stay…didn’t think I could make it down the hallway. I told DH we needed out camera. Another nurse that had come in too went to our room and grabbed it for us. I also told DH I needed my mom. Tina said she wasn’t in our room and I knew we didn’t have time to find her…I really had to push. That kind of freaked me out since my mom was my couch and kept me focused last time. DH came to me and was able to get me to calm down saying everything would be okay and to remember to breathe. As soon as he said that I took a breath and was able to calm down. Yeah for DH!!!

The midwife came in at that time and Tina told her I was ready. She was in shock too since she checked me just an hour before while I was at a 4. She checked and found the head too. She asked if I wanted to get of the tub on the bed or stay in the tub. I told her I didn’t think I could get out. She told me to push whenever I was ready then. I took a breath and pushed and the head came out. Thanks to the water I didn’t feel the ring of fire this time either! It was wonderful. I took a few seconds and pushed again with the midwife pulling the baby on to my chest. It was crazy and so FAST! They kept asking if it was a girl and I kept saying I didn’t know. I was in such shock that it happened so fast that I couldn’t think to look. Finally we checked and we had a little girl! It was crazy to have a water birth without even planning on it. It seems each of our kids like to come in there own way.

DH was able to cut the cord and then they drained the tub enough to take the door off so I could get out. I got on the bed and the midwife helped me with the placenta. DH got dressed and went to call my mom. My poor mom came in and felt terrible for missing it. Really how would she have known though! I handed her granddaughter to her to hold and started to get stitched up. My mom came over to hold me hand after a little while, while I was getting stitched up and that was exactly what I needed. The stitches hurt more than the birth and lasted MUCH longer too. Our little girl had her hand up by her face when she came out so my previous episiotomy line tore again to a 2 this time (better than the 3 it was with LM). I had a bunch of other tears too and many of them were in places the numbing meds couldn’t get. They hurt A LOT! It was such a shock to actually have our little girl less than 9 hours after my water broke. Sure beats the long labor I had with LM.

When we called to tell everyone that she was born and here they were in shock too since we all thought it was going to be a long process. I was sad that no one made it to watch the birth but grateful for such a fast delivery. I’m not scared any more to deliver another baby like I was after having LM. It was so much work with him and this time I didn’t feel like I worked at all. I prefer it that way too!

Cali Trip part 2

March 21-24, 2009
I finally figured out that DD is cold here while sleeping here on vacation so I go in before I head to bed and put the blankets back over her. Now she is sleeping through the night again!

I love how DD has her snack and "shares" with her brother. Notice it by his head in the car seat carrier.

So to sum up what been going on. Saturday my SIL works all day so after getting ready for the day my older sister called to see if we could get together that afternoon for lunch or the next day for lunch or dinner. I called her back and loved the idea of going out to lunch. They took us to In-n-Out. It was DD's first time there. She loved the fries and soda and even tried a few bites of the hamburger which is shocking that she didn't just shake her head at me and say "no" pushing it away without trying it first!

Yummy food for lunch.

DD was obsessed with laying out the blanket for LM and LOVED helping her Uncle with all his house projects. It was so fun to see them interacting with each other.

DD and her uncle loved playing "hide and seek" with each other. Here's a pic of when Auntie joined in the fun too!

At lunch I related my birth story to my BIL (he never heard about how my water broke in the Quizno's men's restroom). He took a major liking to DD too (this was the first time they have seen each other since Thanksgiving, though it was a big family gathering one evening). I was impressed with DD too because she let him carry her around and even set her down once and she came to me to get picked up but he asked if she wanted him and she went over to him! Amazing. We drove back to their house but the kids were asleep so I decided to just take them home. LM though woke up right when I was going to leave starving (it was an hour past his feeding time). I fed him in the car and my sister noticed I was still out there and came to chat with me while I fed him. It was a wonderful visit.

Then that night my SIL came home and her mother too (who was watching my SIL's sister's kids). That made 11 kids in the house under the age of 12! And there were two 2 year-old and DD too! It was very loud. We ate tacos (my favorite) and watched Twilight. I couldn't put DD to bed with all the noise so she didn't get to sleep until 10:30pm. We decided to skip church the next day since it started at 9am and I was dreading going by myself with the kids and not having DH's help anyway. DD of course woke up at 6 am (she always wakes up early when put to bed late). I got her quickly though and put her in bed with me and got her back to sleep and we slept till 9:45am! It was heaven.

Sunday we just relaxed. My SIL and I watched Kit Kittredge. My SIL fell asleep though and ended up watching it later that night. I thought it was a cute story. We went to my sister's for dinner (Taco's again....yummy- they are my favorite food). DD had a blast playing with Uncle Al and chasing him around the house. She ate a taco and even picked up the meat that fell out and put it in her mouth! Amazing. She loved the strawberries and ice cream for dessert too. My sister is almost finished with the family quilt for LM! She wouldn't let me really look at it until it's finished so I'm still waiting.

***LM raised his eye brow at me today (Sunday) in sort of a questioning manner. To funny and cute!***

January 18-19, 2009

I'm having some major back pain (I wonder if it's back labor). We will see. It would be great to not go another 2 weeks before being induced. I can pray! We went out to dinner with some friends last night ( the 17th) and came back to their house to hang out. I fell asleep on their couch for an hour and it was wonderful. I didn't even realize I had really fallen asleep. That's pregnancy for you!I started having back pain/labor there at their house. I turned myself around on their couch to get through the pain and then I turned back around till the next pain came.
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I didn't sleep well. My back was killing me. I found myself getting up to go to the bathroom all the time just to have something to do. DH had his presidency meeting in the morning at 7am. I stayed in bed for awhile until DD got up and needed my help. I was tempted to tell DH that I thought I was starting labor while he was in his meeting but thought I better wait. After his meeting was over I told him that I didn't think I would be going to church that day and he might not be either.

We gave DD a bath and I told him to keep the water in the tub so I could take a soak and hopefully help my back. I got online to see what people said about back labor and if it counted for regular contractions. I was wondering if I needed to start timing them. The two sites I found said they do count. We called up the Labor and Delivery advice to see what they said too. I didn't want to go in and be sent back home. They said that the back labor had to be in combination with a front contraction to count. I was having about 5 back labor contractions to 1 front labor contractions. I stayed in the tub for awhile but eventually got out and laid on the couch. Nothing I did would make it feel better.

DD all ready for church

Our electricity went out at around 10:30am. I finally told DH that I didn't think any progress was happening and that maybe they could go to church. He got DD dressed back up and they made it for the the last 20 minutes of sacrament. DD went to nursery and got 5-10 minutes of screaming in before the lights went out at church too. These winds are CRAZY (50-60 mph). They were sent home since the septic system runs on electricity. I think that's crazy since the church building is meant to be used in a time of emergency. I hope this helps them become more prepared so the building will be more functional in a true crisis.

DD's PB & J face

I was surprised to see DH and DD back so soon but it was nice to be able to feed DD and put her down for her nap and her normal time. After she got up from her nap DH and I were trying to figure out what to make for dinner. Everything I was thinking of required the stove, microwave, or opening the fridge which we were trying not to do. DH called up his parents to see if they had electricity and they did so we went to their house for dinner. I laid on the couch there and had DH timing my contractions they just weren't close enough yet. I had a heat pack on my back which was heavenly. We had breakfast for dinner. I ate a TON! There was french toast, bacon, biscuits and gravy, and fruit with hot chocolate to drink. It was so yummy!

After I finished eating I laid again on the couch. I had DH time a few more contractions before he headed downstairs to check on the scores of some b-ball games online since they weren't getting recorded since our electricity was out. DH's parents took over and started timing some for me. They were getting so close together that I called DH back upstairs to call the advise nurse to see how long they needed to be this close together before heading in. He got them on the phone and they started asking me questions and then I had a contraction and couldn't talk so I handed the phone over the DH. The nurse asked him how many or "those" contractions has she had. He said 8 in the last 40 minutes and the last three were within 5 minutes and the last one was 4 minutes. She said to come in immediately. So we all got in the car and went home to see if the electricity was on for DD to be watched there but it was still off so we gathered the few things we forgot to get earlier and took DD over to our friend's house for them to watch her. I stayed in the car while DH unloaded all her stuff and bed for them. Then we were off the the hospital. My contractions were 4 minutes apart at this point which was a little scary since I was suppose to be in there when they were 8-10 minutes apart to be monitored due to my C-section from before. There's always that risk of a uterine rupture they wanted to keep there eye on.

When we walked in to Labor and Delivery at 7:30pm they took me into a triage room to get checked. My mid-wife was working that night and was just about to go out for a little break but stayed to check me first and then went. I was at a 4, 100% effaced, and at -1 station. They said I wasn't going anywhere and quickly moved me to a labor room. DH went to call our parents and my friend who were all coming for the birth. I got all strapped up and monitored while they started asking me all the routine questions and I got a talk from the anesthesiologist. Everyone started to arrive at that point. My back labor was still killing me so my lovely nurse, Shannon, got the big tub ready for me to soak in. It was great! DH and I went to that room and I stayed there for about an hour. My mid-wife came in to chat with us and after 30 minutes she said that I had 5 contractions but only 2 were bad enough to get me to move. She wanted me to have more of those so she said I needed to get out and walk. I so didn't want to move from that nice warm water but knew she was right.

I got out and started walking all over the halls. DH walked with me first and then my friend joined us. My mom came along for another session of walking too. She was mean though and made me keep going (all for the cause though...not really mean). I noticed while walking around they would have two pieces of art work hung by each other that were the similar. I don't know why but that just bugged me. We stopped in the hall and I bounced on the balls they have there to help with labor. It was fun. It really was a great night to be in labor because I think there was only one other person in labor that night too. We were forbidden to say the word "SLOW" because that would jinx the night and they were all loving the peace and quiet. After walking for a long time I got checked again and I was only at a 5! My mid-wife asked if I was disappointed and in deed I was. After that it was speed walking time!

Me and my wonderful friend who was there to support me.

Speed Walking!

After awhile my nurse had to go on her lunch break. I was given this other nurse, Deb who was fine but she was just in my space too much! I couldn't stand it. For example I was walking in the hall again and I asked to get back in the tub (it needs to be filled up again) and she said fine but is walking in pace with us and stopping every contraction I have instead of going and filling up the tub so by the time I got there it would almost be ready. I just felt like she was havering over me too much especially since I had my friend and DH walking with me. My monitors for the babies heart wouldn't work in the tub the second time. Normally they wouldn't worry about it but since my c-section they had to have constant monitoring so I had to get out of the tub. I wasn't very happy about that but what can you do.

I was so happy when Shannon came back. I could feel my whole body relax. She recommended me getting in the shower to see if that would help. After laboring on the side of the bed for a while I took her up on the offer. It was so nice to have the hot water bet on my back. She brought a chair in for me to sit on and a blanket on the seat. I was great. I was sit and slide back and forth to move the water around on my back and would even stand up and turn around to lean over the chair to get through the contractions. The contractions themselves weren't bad at all. It was the back labor that was killing me. After about 20 minutes DH had my friend come in and sit with me so he could try to get a little nap in. It was about 3 or 4 am at this point. I stayed in the shower til after 5am when I finally got out to be checked. I told my friend that I had better be further than a 7 and thankfully I was at an 8 though in the back of my head I was hoping to be a 9. At one point I asked my mom if a natural birth was worth it. I was dying with the back labor. I couldn't use the hypnobirthing stuff I learned with it because it really was PAIN and not just pressure like the contractions were. I helped a little here and there. She said it was so I decided at that point that I could do it.

My mid-wife talked to me and said she could break my water but that would speed things up but everything was come full force. I didn't want that. I could barely deal with what I was being dosed out to me at that point. Not much later though my water broke. It was completely different than when it broke with DD. This time it was like a fire hydrant that exploded instead of a faucet being turned off and on. It was crazy. Things started kicking up so much then. I had called out to my mom for help and she came over to me and held me. It was the best feeling in the world. DH (my hero) was rubbing my back for me and dealing with my demands of higher/lower and softer/harder. It changed with every contraction. He hates massaging too but did it for over an hour for me. Bless his soul! My friend held one of my hands and my mid-wife held the other. My mom was a great birth coach and got me to lower my tones and focus my energy down to the baby and not just out with what a scream would have produced. It was amazing when I didn't think I could do it that I could. It was the hardest thing I have ever done! I switched positions 4 times while trying to push the baby out. I was on my hands and knees, to my side, back to hands and knees, and finally on my back.

At the end the babies heart beat was dropping and his oxygen level was low. My mid-wife had to put a monitor on his head because they weren't getting his heart beat on the monitor. It was getting so low she called the doctor that was also working into the room. I was so focused on what I had to do and I had my eyes shut that I could just sense the stress in the room and heard people all around me. (I later found out from my mid-wife that the doctor took her out of the room and told her she had 5 minutes to get the baby out or he was going to vacuum him out...which he would have cut me to get the vacuum on too). She came in and told me I needed to push the baby out. I could hear her sense of urgency in her voice. She said she was going to cut me to help get the head out. At that point I was grateful because everyone kept saying the head was right there but it just wasn't coming out. I remember saying at one point is it ever going to come out. I didn't want and episiotomy but I wanted to be finished.

I flipped over to my back. She cut me and only a few pushes later the head was out. I pushed once more and out came the baby at 7:23am on January 19, 2009 (Martin Luther King Jr. Day)! I was soaked through with sweat. They placed the baby on my chest and dried him off. Then they took all the stuff off of us and covered us with blankets. I was so hot the whole evening but after delivering I was freezing. I hurt really bad from being torn apart. One of the baby's arms was stuck behind him so he ripped me when I pushed him out. My mid-wife was asking me to wait so she could flip it around but I didn't hear her and just pushed him out.

All covered up from being cold. See Shannon in the background on the computer. She's amazing!

Our newborn baby boy!

Minutes after birth

This time I was able to see them bathe, clothe, and take all the measurements of the baby. With DD I missed all that since I was still in surgery. It was wonderful to be able to feed him right away too and not be completely drugged up not knowing what was happening. Even though it had only been about 5 months since I last breastfeed DD I had no idea what I was doing. The new nurse that was on duty that was helping me said I was treating him like an older child but I needed to help him. I told her I had no idea what to do so she helped me. Thankfully it finally came back to me after a few tries at it.

His first bath

His first foot print

Checking his vitals and reflexes

weight- 9 lbs 2.7 oz
height- 20.75 in.
head- 14.25 in.
chest- 14.25 in. Our sweet Boy

Snug as a Bug

After I finished eating my breakfast I was wheeled upstairs to the recovery room. It was nice to get put in a familiar location. We had the same rooms as we did with DD. It actually felt like we were just there not long ago though it had been 19 months. The hospital had new recovery rooms opening but they wouldn't be opened until Wednesday and that was the day we were heading home. I guess our next baby will get that room.

Once in our room. DH and I both took naps since we really hadn't slept at all. I had found myself nodding off in the shower in between contractions. Other than that we were both exhausted. DH's hands hurt so bad from all the massaging and I was totally worn out, for obvious reasons. We had a couple hours before visitors were coming so we were taking advantage of that time. DH's sister's family were the first to come and visit. Just like with DD they were throwing around possible names for us to name him. DH and I still hadn't had time to talk it over since we slept the only time we had together alone. It was interesting to hear the kids suggestions (most of which came from movies or games).

Getting loves from his cousin and Aunt

DH got a call from his dad while we were visiting and went to stand behind the curtain over by the door in the room. I wasn't paying any attention since I figured he was trying to hear better without all of us talking. DH's parents had taken our car back home with them (leaving their car with us) so we wouldn't need to switch DD's car seat around for them to bring her to visit us. They were on their way to the hospital with DD when these teenagers lost control of their car (it had bald tires) and thankfully with a quick reaction and a blessing no other cars were coming my father-in-law moved over into the oncoming traffics lane to avoid a head-on collision with them. They hit the back passenger door and back panel which we found out later they realigned the drivers side of the trunk too. We found this all out when DH's Dad calls and tells DH that he has some unfortunate news but everyone is okay. I was visiting with DH's sister and her family who were there and my BIL says, "DD was in an accident." I looked at him and then over at DH who was behind the curtain by the door and started to listen to the conversation. I asked DH, "is that our car?" and he leaned his head around and nodded yes. I couldn't believe it! We have the worse luck in the world. DD being only 19 months old has now been in 3 car accidents! That's just CRAZY!!! So that afternoon DH had to deal with the car insurance company and then get us a rental car (van). It wasn't the way we wanted to spend our day together bonding as a family

When DD got to the hospital she was so excited to see Daddy and Mommy. She sat with me on my bed and ate my crackers I had for taking with my pills. Due to the car accident she hadn't had anything to eat for lunch or a snack and it was now past 2pm. They were so lucky to have a good Samaritan bring them all to the hospital (a friend from church, Sister Kelson, happened to be driving by and saw them on the side of the road and stopped to see if they needed help and brought them to us). DD looked at her brother but didn't seem to care too much until Grandpa picked him up to hold him. then she went over to Grandpa and demanded to be picked up (her first sign of jealousy). According to Grandma, Grandpa had been spoiling her rotten and carrying her all over the place. She then wanted to look at the baby and and pointed to him. Grandpa and DH went to get the rental car (actually a van) and Grandma stayed to watch the kids and I took a nap. DD then started to give her brother tons of kisses. This picture was the best one I was able to take from my bed zoomed in. It was third or fourth kiss she had given him. It was so sweet to see and just the beginning of the wonderful relationship they will have with each other.

That night DH got really sick once he got back from picking up the rental. I think it was in combination of staying up all night and the added stress of dealing with the insurance companies. Once my parents arrived that evening after taking naps at home I sent DH home to get some real sleep and my mom spent the first night with me at the hospital. My Dad drove him home and brought him back the next day when he picked up my mom. I'm so glad my mom sacrificed a good night sleep to help me out and stay with me.

We had the best night nurse that night too! She found little blue socks to put on the babies feet and she figured out my medicine schedule so that I would constantly have some pain med in my system. None of the other nurses figured that out but I was grateful to her for that and stocking my fridge with two ice packs at a time so I would always have one to use. She was wonderful.